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Love Is The Opposite of Control and Dependency-2a

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We have the “assurance” of salvation when we “trust” Jesus with our lives, that’s it.  Once we trust Jesus, He, our great Heavenly Physician, will perfectly heal and restore us, thus our assurance is in Jesus, not in ourselves or our future. Salvation is Now!!  1John 5:11-13,   1 John 3:2,   John 17:3

Celebrate  by asking Jesus to come into your heart this very moment!

Today is the day of Salvation!  1John 5:11-13

Jesus will make you just like Him.

Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is.  1John 3:2, 2 Corinthians 3:18.

And what is Jesus like?

Jesus  is Steadfast unfailing Love, a Love that will hold you together and never forsake you!!

When I thought, “My foot slips,”
your steadfast love, O LORD, held me up. Psalms 94:18

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 1John 4:7-8

The facts are that everyone will know that we are disciples of Jesus by the way we love one another!

By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”John 13:35

His love is The Gospel! That unfailing Love will draw me to Him and Save me!   John 12:32,  Romans 1:16-17.

 

We have the “assurance” of salvation when we “trust” Jesus with our lives, that’s it.  Once we trust Jesus, He, our great Heavenly Physician, will perfectly heal and restore us, thus our assurance is in Jesus, not in ourselves or our future. Salvation is Now!!  1John 5:11-13,   1 John 3:2,   John 17:3

 

 When I thought, “My foot slips,”
   your steadfast love, O LORD, held me up. 

Psalms 94:18 

  And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together.

Colossians 1:17  

For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died;

  2 Corinthians 5:14

When healthy love does not successfully emerge and instead selfishness dominates, dependency is frequently the result.

Love is doing what is good regardless of how one feels. Love is doing what is in the best interest of another and giving of oneself for another. Love is selfless. When we love, we live. When we stop loving, we die. Of course it is the infection of selfishness that is the complete opposite of true love.

Unfortunately all nature is infected with the virus of selfishness. This includes each one of us!! Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23.

Selfishness is the principle of taking, while love is the principle of giving.

And Love Is Other Centered!!  Philippians 2:1-4, 1John 4:8, John 3:16, 1Corinthians 13:5. Matthew 5:43-48, Philippians 2:5-8,12-13.

 

Love heals, while dependency destroys.

Love liberates, while dependency always seeks to control.

Love gives, while dependency constantly takes.

Love is fearless, while dependency is fear-ridden.

Love is interested in another, while dependency focuses on self.

Love is stable, while dependency wavers.

Love is orderly and reliable, while dependency is chaotic and unreliable.

Love is based on principle, while dependency is based on feelings.

Love is consistent, while dependency is inconsistent.

Love is honest and truthful, while dependency is dishonest and deceitful.

Love is patient, while dependency is impulsive.

Love is kind, while dependency is cruel.

Love is forgiving, while dependency is resentful.

Love protects, while dependency exploits.

Love sacrifices self, while dependency sacrifices others.

Love never ends, while dependency never lasts.

Love never fails, while dependency never succeeds.

“Courtesy Dr. Tim Jennings and ComeAndReason.com”

 

We have the “assurance” of salvation when we “trust” Jesus with our lives, that’s it.  Once we trust Jesus, He, our great Heavenly Physician, will perfectly heal and restore us, thus our assurance is in Jesus, not in ourselves or our future. Salvation is Now!!  1John 5:11-13, 1John 3:2, John 17:3

 

Today I Will Make a Difference

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Today I will make a difference. I will begin by controlling my thoughts. A person is the product of his thoughts. I want to be happy and hopeful. Therefore, I will have thoughts that are happy and hopeful. I refuse to be victimized by my circumstances. I will not let petty inconveniences such as stoplights, long lines, and traffic jams be my masters. I will avoid negativism and gossip. Optimism will be my companion, and victory will be my hallmark. Today I will make a difference.

I will be grateful for the twenty-four hours that are before me. Time is a precious commodity. I refuse to allow what little time I have to be contaminated by self-pity, anxiety, or boredom. I will face this day with the joy of a child and the courage of a giant. I will drink each minute as though it is my last. When tomorrow comes, today will be gone forever. While it is here, I will use it for loving and giving. Today I will make a difference.

I will not let past failures haunt me. Even though my life is scarred with mistakes, I refuse to rummage through my trash heap of failures. I will admit them. I will correct them. I will press on. Victoriously. No failure is fatal. It’s OK to stumble… . I will get up. It’s OK to fail… . I will rise again. Today I will make a difference.

I will spend time with those I love. My spouse, my children, my family. A man can own the world but be poor for the lack of love. A man can own nothing and yet be wealthy in relationships. Today I will spend at least five minutes with the significant people in my world. Five quality minutes of talking or hugging or thanking or listening. Five undiluted minutes with my mate, children, and friends.

Today I will make a difference.

From Shaped by God (original title: On the Anvil)
Copyright (Tyndale House, 1985, 2002) Max Lucado

All About Love—A Wonderful Short Story

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We have the “assurance” of salvation when we “trust” Jesus with our lives, that’s it.  Once we trust Jesus, He, our great Heavenly Physician, will perfectly heal and restore us, thus our assurance is in Jesus, not in ourselves or our future. Salvation is Now!!                   1John 5:11-13,   1 John 3:2,   John 17:3

 

The very foundation of Salvation is grounded in the realization that God’s unmerited love toward us is greater than any other power—including death!!                                                                  Romans 8:37-39, 1Corinthians 15:55-57

Love is not simply about avoiding injurious activities—it is about choosing to purposefully act in uplifting and selfless ways. Nor is it simply about doing what feels good. Rather, love involves doing what is good regardless of how one feels. Doing what is in the best interest of another and giving of oneself for another, love is selfless! When we love, we live. When we stop loving, we die!

A Story About Love

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were
sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand
with some water and held it before me, and said this: “You see this
water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love.”

This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and
allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you
attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will
spill through the first cracks it finds.
This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love… they
try to posses it, they demand, they expect… and just like the water
spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you.
For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are
people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don’t expect.
Advise, but don’t order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple,
but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the
secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no
expectations from those who you love,
and yet an unconditional caring.”

 

 

            The Power Of God’s Love!

 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him. In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the Day of Judgment, because in this world we are like him.  There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.  The one who fears is not made perfect in love.  1 John 4:13-21 NIV, John 5:24

This Is Truly The Gospel In Action!!

“Courtesy Come And Reason Ministries”

When Adversity Comes, Carry Each Other

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This Post By Vanessa Sanders Pham

God doesn’t bring our spouses into our lives to bring us immediate happiness, completeness and bliss. He brings them into our lives because, usually, they bear opposite strengths and weaknesses from us. This is due to God’s wise, ‘sneaky’ plan of building character within us and our partner.

In the early years, we see and appreciate the strengths in our partner. In the later years, the weaknesses become more apparent. This is when we must realize the opposite strengths in our partner while recognizing the weaknesses within ourselves – rather than only seeing the strengths within ourselves and the weaknesses within our partners, which is what many of us tend to do. As a team, partners must rely on one another; they must observe and learn from one another in the light of God’s truth and guidance, and this is not easy. It calls for patience, prayer, and perseverance. One of my favorite lyrics is “One” by U2 because it so accurately, more than any other song I’ve heard, describes the marriage partnership:

“One love

One life

When it’s one need

In the night

One love

We get to share it

Leaves you baby if you

Don’t care for it.”

To me, “caring” for a partnership means to work at it, and when you don’t work at staying with your partner, with whatever sacrifices that might require (time, forgiveness), the love leaves the relationship. Yes, LOVE must be a conscious effort after the “honeymoon” phase has passed.

Once we realize that marriage will inevitably bring adversity and is not supposed to be perfect because none of us, nor are partners, is perfect, and we realize instead that marriage is about learning and growing through the adversity (while also enjoying life-long companionship), maybe we will be more patient with our spouses and more forgiving of ourselves. Maybe we will be willing to make the sacrifice of “carrying each other” rather than only carrying ourselves and expecting our partners to carry themselves. In reality, we need each other, and isn’t that a big reason we married in the first place? The Bible says that, when married, partners are one flesh. We are united, bound to each other forever, through the pleasant and unpleasant times.

“Did I disappoint you?

Or leave a bad taste in your mouth?

You act like you never had love

And you want me to go without

Well it’s

Too late

Tonight

To drag the past out into the light

We’re one, but we’re not the same

We get to

Carry each other

Carry each other

One.”

I think of Siamese twins, always bound together bodily but with separate minds. You know they must get so tired of being attached to each other, and each one must make sacrifices for the other – they must go where the other wants to go and wait on the other one. They both long to be independent yet must rely on one another. They must literally “carry” each other. It is no different in the marriage partnership.

“We’re one

But we’re not the same

Well we

Hurt each other

Then we do it again

You say

Love is a temple

Love a higher law

Love is a temple

Love the higher law

You ask me to enter

But then you make me crawl

And I can’t be holding on

To what you got

When all you got is hurt, but

One love

One blood

One life

You got to do what you should

One life

With each other

Sisters

Brothers

One life

But we’re not the same

We get to

Carry each other
Carry each other

One.”

When adversity comes, carry each other. That is the beauty and lasting strength of love.