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We have the “assurance” of salvation when we “trust” Jesus with our lives, that’s it.  Once we trust Jesus, He, our great Heavenly Physician, will perfectly heal and restore us, thus our assurance is in Jesus, not in ourselves or our future. Salvation is Now!!  1John 5:11-13,   1 John 3:2,   John 17:3

Celebrate  by asking Jesus to come into your heart this very moment!

Today is the day of Salvation!  1John 5:11-13

Jesus will make you just like Him.

Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is.  1John 3:2, 2 Corinthians 3:18.

And what is Jesus like?

Jesus  is Steadfast unfailing Love, a Love that will hold you together and never forsake you!!

When I thought, “My foot slips,”
your steadfast love, O LORD, held me up. Psalms 94:18

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 1John 4:7-8

The facts are that everyone will know that we are disciples of Jesus by the way we love one another!

By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”John 13:35

His love is The Gospel! That unfailing Love will draw me to Him and Save me!   John 12:32,  Romans 1:16-17.


We have the “assurance” of salvation when we “trust” Jesus with our lives, that’s it.  Once we trust Jesus, He, our great Heavenly Physician, will perfectly heal and restore us, thus our assurance is in Jesus, not in ourselves or our future. Salvation is Now!!  1John 5:11-13,   1 John 3:2,   John 17:3


 When I thought, “My foot slips,”
   your steadfast love, O LORD, held me up. 

Psalms 94:18 

  And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together.

Colossians 1:17  

For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died;

  2 Corinthians 5:14

When healthy love does not successfully emerge and instead selfishness dominates, dependency is frequently the result.

Love is doing what is good regardless of how one feels. Love is doing what is in the best interest of another and giving of oneself for another. Love is selfless. When we love, we live. When we stop loving, we die. Of course it is the infection of selfishness that is the complete opposite of true love.

Unfortunately all nature is infected with the virus of selfishness. This includes each one of us!! Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23.

Selfishness is the principle of taking, while love is the principle of giving.

And Love Is Other Centered!!  Philippians 2:1-4, 1John 4:8, John 3:16, 1Corinthians 13:5. Matthew 5:43-48, Philippians 2:5-8,12-13.


Love heals, while dependency destroys.

Love liberates, while dependency always seeks to control.

Love gives, while dependency constantly takes.

Love is fearless, while dependency is fear-ridden.

Love is interested in another, while dependency focuses on self.

Love is stable, while dependency wavers.

Love is orderly and reliable, while dependency is chaotic and unreliable.

Love is based on principle, while dependency is based on feelings.

Love is consistent, while dependency is inconsistent.

Love is honest and truthful, while dependency is dishonest and deceitful.

Love is patient, while dependency is impulsive.

Love is kind, while dependency is cruel.

Love is forgiving, while dependency is resentful.

Love protects, while dependency exploits.

Love sacrifices self, while dependency sacrifices others.

Love never ends, while dependency never lasts.

Love never fails, while dependency never succeeds.

“Courtesy Dr. Tim Jennings and”


We have the “assurance” of salvation when we “trust” Jesus with our lives, that’s it.  Once we trust Jesus, He, our great Heavenly Physician, will perfectly heal and restore us, thus our assurance is in Jesus, not in ourselves or our future. Salvation is Now!!  1John 5:11-13, 1John 3:2, John 17:3


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128 thoughts on “Love Is The Opposite of Control and Dependency-2a

    • Love is the basis of all….and Jesus has all the love…never tired of giving love, overflowing with love. Dependency on Jesus alone.

      • So true Teresa!! Thanks for your visit and please return soon!!
        God bless you with His Steadfast Love Always!! Isaiah 54:10 ESV

      • Your massage is so intresting infact i have liked it so much, May the Almighty God bless your work, but which religion are u?

        • Thanks for your comment!!
          I am a Seventh Day Adventist Christian who believes Jesus is about to come!!!
          May you always abide in God’s Steadfast Love!! Isaiah 54:10

      • Thanks for your wonderful comment Merla!! God bless you!!!
        May you abide in God’s Steadfast Love Always!! Isaiah 54:10 ESV, Psalms 94:18 ESV
        Please visit often!!

      • My all-time favorite text!

        Would you mind if I use some of your material in a series of presentations (Public Evangelism, Sermons and/or Training for Outreach)
        I would be very careful with it, and if using anything in print, give proper credits.

      • We are requesting for Christian Mission teams,Evangelists,pastors and prophets of the lord that the lord has spoken to them about the time we are living in..our orphans need help in terms of Food,Bibles,Clothes,shoes,and any other support you will feel in your heart to bring to us..if you want to sent us any help.we need you soon in our land…SO WELCOME ALL.

    • I love and appreciate the remarks. love is the greatest thing we can ever do cause if u something/someone u can do anything for that person/thing,that’s why Jesus says if you love Me keep my Commandments and this is by this means to prove /show to Master Jesus that we love Him it is my prayer and hope that we will forgo everything thing this world will offer us and love Jesus by Keeping His Command.

    • Thanks Cindy, An appropriate prayer for all of us!!
      Of course 1 Corinthians 13 is the model of true love!!
      And 1 Corinthians 13 :5 defines true love as giving and never taking!

    • Thanks Nellie for your comment!!
      The Gospel is Jesus and He is the one who saves us!!

      Jeremiah 31:3, Mark 1:15, Romans 1:16,17

  1. Ezekiel 18:9 He follows my decrees and faithfully keeps my laws. That man is righteous; he will surely live, declares the Sovereign LORD.

  2. Thanks Wayne! The Lord sent this message through you to sooth my soul and to tell me in a loving way that I need to stay loving; must continue to love those that have hurt me and caused so much pain. It has been a very painful year and not over yet. I have been praying that the Lord may cleanse my soul from any resentfulness and bitterness. I want to feel nothing but God’s love towards everyone. To love and love more, is the medicine that heals bleeding wounds. May the gracious and Merciful God of Heaven hear my prayer, and keep my thoughts, feelings, words and deeds. Thanks again Wayne for sending me this post. God bless you my brother.

    • Thanks Zarinha for your moving comment!!
      God does love us with an everlasting love!! Jeremiah 31:3
      In fact God loved us even before the creation of our world!! John 17:23,24
      God’s love will never fail you nor will He leave or forsake you!! Deuteronomy 31:6,8
      Praise God for such an unfailing love!!
      Please visit often Zarinha!!

  3. Love the blog!!!!…..God longs to pour out His spirit on His church..He longs to fill our hearts with His love,,transform us through His grace,, and fill us with His power…………….Do not hesitate in proclaiming His love and grace to those who God brings into your life…….Witnessing Christians are growing Christians………..May God bless you!!!

    • Thanks so much Janet for your encouraging comment!!
      Truth is that Jesus is everything to the believer. Our deliverance from temptation and sin is not based on what we can do. No, it is based on what God has already done for us in the person of Jesus Christ. When this truth becomes a reality in our understanding we will then have the basis of our victory over sin. We will have discovered the secret of living the holy life God calls us to live. See Romans 8:3,4,11, Colossians 1:24-26,27, 2Corinthians 5:18-19,20
      Thanks again for the uplifting encouragement!!

    • God bless you Annet!!
      Feel free to use this post in any way you choose including re-posting it!
      Please visit often! I appreciate your visit very much!!
      God Bless21
      Jeremiah 31:3

  4. I have few bitter experience from othrs . Manytimes i tried 2 forgive them but i cant . I would like to love them like God loves me . Remember me in your prayers

    • Jesus, who is our great Heavenly Physician, will perfectly heal and restore us of all pain and bitterness!!
      He loves us with an everlasting love!!.
      You are in my prayers for sure!!
      Please visit often!!

    • Thanks for your comment Peter!! And yes the Gospel will go to all the world and then Jesus will come!!
      Jesus is about to come!!
      Revelation 22:20

  5. Thank you so much Wayne, this lesson about love is truly the everlasting gospel. Yesterday I spent the afternoon with a group of women studying about love, we all left feeling so blessed sharing about Christ’s unconditional love and how truly we need to reflect His love!

    • Thank you very much Michelle!! I appreciate the encouragement!!
      Your right that love is in fact the true everlasting Gospel of Jesus!!
      Keep up the wonderful group you mentioned. I believe as we see the end approaching their will be small groups meeting in the Name of Jesus all over the world!
      God bless you Michelle in all you do!!
      Jeremiah 31:3



    • God bless you always Marcella with His Love that never fails!! God will never leave or forsake you NEVER!!!!
      It is wonderful that we are told to love one another!!
      Jesus is about to come!!
      Jeremiah 31:3 1 John 4:8-12

  7. tanks for ur msg ………..
    i need more because i want to repent and follow Christ…….
    i need more of your messages to build up my life.
    thanks once again and may THE GOOD LORD JEHOVAH BLESS YOU.

    • Jesus will accept you now this very moment!! The Bible is clear as attested to the Scriptures listed below!!

      We have the “assurance” of salvation when we “trust” Jesus with our lives, that’s it. Once we trust Jesus, He, our great Heavenly Physician, will perfectly heal and restore us, thus our assurance is in Jesus, not in ourselves or our future. Salvation is Now!! 1John 5:11-13, 1 John 3:2, John 17:3

      Now when they heard this, they were cut to the heart, and said to Peter and the rest of the apostles, “Men and brethren, what shall we do?”
      Then Peter said to them, “Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. For the promise is to you and to your children, and to all who are afar off, as many as the Lord our God will call.” Acts 2:37-39
      That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. Romans 10:9






    Rev. P. EPHRAIM


    Dear brother in Christ

    Greetings to you in the most precious name of our Lord Jesus Christ

    Let me introduce myself that my name is P. EPHRAIM, from India. We have established the society in the year 1997 with the help of some faithful Christians. We established this society only because that we can proclaim the spirit of God in our areas some of our teams have been distributing the Bible free tracts and booklets in the particular centers, Hospitals, Educational centers and some remote villages. We also distribute them for the Pastors and Evangelists.

    Through this process we are able to cover our Mandal nearly 15 villages. Pastors and Evangelists of different areas also getting free tracts and booklets from us. And they good understand about Bible through this literature. It has become a burden for us to continue this program. If I got generous hand of yours. I will be able to succeed in this program.

    By the grace of God, we run a Christian lending library in my area. So many people are come and search the spiritual books and read and known the real God of Jesus. Here, my position is not good, because of no sufficient spiritual literature. Many people are disappointed of short of literature.

    So, brother please consider my request and pray for my spiritual need of my people and send some of your publications and Gospel Tracts to me. We pray for you and your families and also your ministries.

    Pls Prayer for our Need‘s: – Brother, if you possible please provide here in my area, Your Gospel messages are relay to free media. Here so many free media channels are broadcast some business, Films and etc, but there is no our Gospel messages free Media in my state (Andhra Pradesh). So, brother, please consider my request and provide your material and support to start the Gospel Messages free Media (FM)Free Media; here so many people are used free media sets, audio.

    We request you please kindly consider my request and support my above media center in my state . we pray for you and your family and also your ministry .

    See Our Web Site : –

    [1] Church ministry [2] women s ministry.[3] youth ministry

    [4]children s ministry[5] House visiting ministry [6] tracks ministry

    [7] Bible distribution ministry [8] street gospel ministry [9] hospital ministry

    Please pray for us as we pray for you. We shall await for your further the most valuable and prayerful response at an earliest with good anticipation and fervent hope.

    We pray for you and your Family and also your ministry in my Regular prayers.

    Yours in His service forever

    Rev . P. Ephraim

    E-MAIL –

  9. What a blessing you are to so many who take the time to stop and visit. Thank You for allowing Jesus to use you as His instrument to touch others~~Blessings~~

    • God bless you always Deborah!!
      Thanks so much for visiting my Gospel Blog!!
      May God continue to fill you with His Steadfast Love!!

  10. This is great. It helps me understand better of 1 Cor 13. Thank you for using your talent to bless others. God bless you each day.

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  12. I love the writing about “Love”. When we learn to love across all cultural barriers and accept people as “God’s Creations” – I think we will learn to love and treat each other without being judgemental.

    • Yes Victoria you are absolutely right!!
      In Jesus we are all God’s children!!
      May God keep you always in His steadfast love!!
      Psalm 94:18

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  14. This is so great,so rewarding am richly blessed I wish you could come to my country for sermons…..God bless you richly. You have changed my dimension of thinking about love.Be blessed!

  15. You may be aware that thinking about love and so forth is my passion. The characteristics you talk about is one of the reasons love must be emotional at its core. Love as duty and action is limited and legalistic. Thanks for the thoughts, and let me know if you would like a copy of one of my books.

  16. It s really interesting to know the nature of love in our lives. All what we can do for others. Without thinking first in ourselves. Just putting the attention on sharing with others. The humans beings are selfish by nature but thanks God, we can express the same love that Jesus expressed when he died on the cross.

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  18. Be glad then, ye children of Zion Joel.2:23… because he first loved us,we in turn ought to love others,remember he says “freely you receive freely give” it is our obligation to share the love we received,last weeks lesson @ church reminded me of how GOD so loved this perishing world……

    • Thanks for your comment Janet!!
      May God Fill You With His Steadfast Love Always!! Psalm 94:18
      Please visit often!

  19. Thank you for expounding on the higher Love of the Spirit of God; what the whole world is desiring in the innermost depths of their heart, whether consciously or unconsciously. Thank you for adding to the Light of the world!

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  21. Thnx 4the word of love. In Malachi 1vs2 God said i have loved you, yet ye say, wherein hast thou loved us? Was not Esau Jacob’s brother? Saith the Load: yet i loved Jacob. Jeremiah 31vs3 the Load haith appeared of old unto me, saying, yea, i have loved thee with an everasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have i drawn thee.

    • Thanks for your comment Kwasi!!

      May you remain always in God’s Steadfast love!!
      When I thought, “My foot slips,”
      your steadfast love, O LORD, held me up. Psalm 94:18

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  23. I have loved the post about love; actually I am presenting a week of prayer on stewardship and my emphasis on God Love through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ for us and the entire world.
    Thank you, and remember to give an offering to God for such a wisdom he has given you.

  24. Thanks for this topic.

    In my opinion Love is God and we partake of His love when

    we are with God. We are with God through

    the 5 sences Jesus created in us: touch,

    taste, sight, sound, and smell. So in every

    choice we make we expose those senses of the

    body, mind, and soul. We choose the amount

    of God’s love we reflect and share by

    exposure. Thank you, Lord Jesus, for Your

    Holy Spirit’s presence that chastens me,

    enlightens me, and motivates me to spend

    more and more time with you and in much

    better settings. Oh, to walk as Enoch


    • God bless you Trevor!!
      Abide in God’s Steadfast Love!! Psalms 94:18
      Thanks for your visit!! Please visit often!!

  25. Thank you so much for the good news from word of God. It is very touchy and I loved so much… thank you for accepting me as your freind….
    Eva Pagan
    P.O. Box 60151
    Houston, TX 77205
    Tel: (281) 201-5967

    • Thank you too Eva!! I am happy you visited my blog!! Please visit often!!

      When I thought, “My foot slips,”
      your steadfast love, O Lord, held me up. Psalm 94:18 ESV

    • Your very welcome Eldie!!

      For the mountains may depart
      and the hills be removed,
      but my steadfast love shall not depart from you,
      and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,”
      says the LORD, who has compassion on you. Isaiah 54:10 ESV

  26. GM Gospelbondservant thanks for the invitation to your inspiring ministry. We have heard a joyful sound, Jesus saves, Jesus saves (#340) my song of praise today. Stay prayed up!

  27. True LOVE is a sacrifice. GOD shown us a good example of LOVE by giving HIS only begotten SON, JESUS CHRIST. John 3:16 Thank you for your good work .

    • (#79 in our SDA hymnal) My song of praise says, “O love of God, How Strong and True! Eternal, and yet ever new; un-comprehended and un-bought, beyond all knowledge and all though. Stay prayed up!

    • Thanks for visiting and for your encouraging comment!!
      Always abide in God’s Steadfast Love!!! Isaiah 54:10
      Please visit often!!

    • Thanks for your comment!! Please visit often!!
      May you abide in God’s Steadfast Love—Always!!!! Isaiah 54:10 ESV

    • Thank you very much Betty!!
      Please visit often!!
      May God continue to bless you with His Steadfast Love!! Isaiah 54:10

    • Thanks Paul!!
      Please visit often!!
      Jesus is about to come!
      May we all know Jesus who will save us!! John 17:3

  28. There is nothing greater than LOVE.Without Love we are nothing,without Love we have no Hope and life.

  29. Love,true love,is a principle not a feeling. It roots deep down in Christ & springs out in life giving currents to all around us. Greater love hath no man than that which Jesus showed us on Calvary..John15v13.

    • Amen!!
      For the mountains may depart
      and the hills be removed,
      but my steadfast love shall not depart from you,
      and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,”
      says the Lord, who has compassion on you. Isaiah 54:10 ESV

    • Thanks for visiting Linda!! I appreciate your comment very much!!
      May we always abide in God’s Steadfast Love Isaiah 54:10 ESV

  30. Ronald B.Nyabinge
    Tombe Gospel ministry
    P.O. BOX 17847
    East Africa.
    We are involved in;
    1.Soul winning-crusades and Bible distribution
    2.Church planting.
    3.Bible study seminars
    Can someone partner with me by helping supplying 1200 Ekegusii Languege Bibles?

  31. i really love this to be with friend in Christ i’ve really appreciated this
    i cant wait to listen to these songs and keep it up

    • God bless you Matthiuz!!
      Just keep trusting in Jesus and He will supply all your needs!! Philippians 4:19
      When I thought, “My foot slips,”
      your steadfast love, O Lord, held me up.Psalms 94:18

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